I have an important question for you to consider. It may even be life-changing.
Are you looking for the “exception to the rule?”
Why life-changing? Well, read on . . .
If we’re talking about how much time you should get off from work based on how hard you work, you might in fact think your effort ought to be the exception to the rule.
However, if we’re talking about trustworthiness, that may be influenced by how trustworthy you feel others have been in the past or are today.
I’m sure you’re thinking, “Well, so what? How does this fix my problems right now?”
Hang with me for a moment . . .
It is impossible for your exception to the rule to not be dependent upon your perception.
And yet, that perception may be the root of your problems.
Ding. Ding. Ding.
If you’re stuck in a cycle of defeat and discouragement, trapped by anger or anxiety, frustrated by your relationships or work, it may be that you’re looking for the exception to the rule and not clearly seeing the solution right in front of you.
Maybe thinking about this dilemma through the eyes of my horse, Kody, might help. Because of his trauma, Kody sees me as the “exception to the rule,” which is both a good thing and a bad thing. I’m thrilled he knows I’m his person and he has come to really trust me.
However, when I walk out of the barn or step away from him, his anxiety kicks into overdrive and he becomes a hard-to-handle horse.
This cuddly boy is actually scared to death when I leave his side in a place that he doesn’t feel comfortable in or without one of his herd buddies.
Fair, right? But we’re not supposed to live in fear and insecurity.
Kody needs to learn I’m not an “exception to the rule,” and it is my job to build his confidence and help him thrive by experiencing life a bit out of his comfort zone for short bursts of time. It’s a learning process that it is uncomfortable for both of us, and yet that is the kind of healthy stress that leads to growth and transformation.
So how does this apply to you?
The emotional baggage we carry traps us in a growthless comfort zone and makes thriving pretty darn hard.
We spend so much time living scared and worried about finding the “exception to the rule” rather than seeing and embracing the growth opportunities clearly before us.
So, let me ask you again: Are you looking for the exception to the rule?
If your answer is YES, I am here to help you overcome that way of living.
Yes, I am convinced that the way forward begins with identifying the problem and strategizing the way forward with someone you trust.
So if you need me to be an “exception to the rule,” like I’m doing for Kody, I can do that for you for the time being. But my end goal is to help you become emotionally resilient and relationally strong so that you can thrive on your own in every area of your life!
If you’re ready to get started, book a Discovery Session!
Yes, you can arise, stabilize, and thrive!